Today I received a letter from the Congo, I would say "yet another" is just as much as an explicit request for money set properly in the midst of the greetings and blessings of our Lord. I wrote Philippe, a boy conusciuto in place several years ago that I see whenever I go back to Congo.
When you're there, you know someone, try to become friends, or at least try to establish a peaceful relationship, which lasts a bit 'more ... but, often, there is nothing to do and I understand almost immediately and you have continuous retries. The gap is huge, you're always seen as the West has the money. Useless and often ridiculous trying to explain that to pay you the trip you suffered a year of sacrifice and deprivation, maybe you're saying to a person who invents life day by day. Despite everything we do not show the idea that when you looked in my eyes, the look of our fellow running our pocket. In some ways it is inevitable to do so if we see all the time to pull out of U.S. dollars to buy dollars on the statue, the clay pot, the traditional mask or bottled water that costs more than gold. Some will even allowed to think that we give with the same ease as ten dollars to him ...
We leave our address how not to, but apparently it is always joined by some request "brutal." I personally have tried in every possible way to prevent potential friendships were reduced in squalid requests for money, but I have to resign to the idea that not enough to say "let's be friends and nothing else." It 's all relative, even the concept of friendship, and obviously those who are forced to study them all in order to survive has a different concept of friendship, at least has different expectations and to be honest has a different concept of money.
In short, the basic misunderstanding, and there remains, what to do? What to do? How to avoid generalizations? It takes little to say: "Africans are all opportunists." Even for them in the end it is easy to think that all whites are rich. I refuse to be bound by this play, but I recognize that ultimately childbirth often on the wrong foot: preach evil good and scratching! I insist, however, in wanting to try to establish a relationship with the next without falling in prevention. If the next time I'll have to give up the phone to prevent others think I can afford to waste the equivalent of telephone calls in weeks of hard work ... well I will. What else do? Give up mineral water? If I can not really, the giardia and I got it once is enough. I like that this was understood, but I understand that he could not serenely claim, at least for now.
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